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To the Bullies

To the children who were trying as hard as they could this afternoon to “prank” my youngest daughter – your bullying has been noted. For the Bullies: A Parent's letter

At first, I thought it was typical 6th grade drama – something to discuss with my child but nothing to get all up in arms about.

As the situation become more clear I saw you for exactly what you are: bullies.

When I took her iPod and let all of you texting her know that you were talking to her Mother – as I had taken over the iPod – some of you did the only correct thing in a 12 year old mine; stayed silent.

Some of you apologized, showing a higher level of understanding than I would expect from a 12 year old.

But those of you who thought you could talk to me like you were a grown person?

Not cool.

Not cool at all.

Luckily, my 15 year old daughter’s cooler head prevailed in my responses to you – because it was hard for me to remember that I was talking to 12 year wanna-be grown ups.

But don’t worry. I realized VERY quickly that you were bullies. So did my husband.

And while we don’t have your parent’s phone numbers to let them know about your behavior, we DO know how to go talk to the Principal.

And how to email the teachers. (Which has already happened. Oops)

So, you can keep texting my daughters iPod all night long, trying to change my mind and telling me its no big deal.

You will see what kind of deal it is tomorrow when my husband goes to school.

You will see what kind of deal it is when my 15 year old goes to walk her baby sister home.

You will see what kind of deal it is when my almost 6 foot tall son is right there with them.

You see, in this family, the only people allowed to pick on the baby are her sibling.

You see, in this family, we are never alone.

You see, in this family, we actually talk to each other about things that are happening.


And a special note, for the person who told my daughter that tomorrow was rape day. For the one who after I told them that was not appropriate and to stop talking to my daughter that you had sex with her and that it was oh-so-good and asked me what to do with the naked pictures you have of her (which was stated to get me worked up) – there is a special place reserved for you in my heart. Your texts have been sent to the authorities. As you said, you are 14. Your actions ARE criminal. I hope you learn how to be a decent human being. But if you don’t, I am pretty certain that your new home isn’t going to have WiFi and iPods or cell phones or computers.

So. How have you dealt with bullying and your children?


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  • Holly @ Coconutheadsurvivalguide April 26, 2014, 8:04 am

    Can you hear my heart breaking across cyberspace? Thank you for sharing, and hopefully your message will help raise awareness. I recently posted about my story when I was a child.
    We teach our son that it is not good enough to not be a bully, but you have to also stick up for others if you witness it. I think it’s so much harder for this generation to be a kid. Big hugs my friend. Holly
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    • MommaO April 26, 2014, 8:23 am

      Yes, they have to be able to step in and stop bullying when they see it. The thing is, doing that makes them a target. It is a problem (We encountered with the oldest and middle one as well, it is simply the youngest’s first exposure) but I don’t think it is a problem that is ever going to be solved…. too many kids with self esteem issues trying to make themselves bigger and better by tearing others down…

  • Ray April 27, 2014, 10:35 am


    I am so sorry… :( I never thought that we would be in this position. We were 3 years ago as out oldest who is 16 now stood up for someone. I am still unable to blog about it because it was so AWFUL. Life was horrid for nearly a year. We finally pulled her from school until the school heard us and put certain things in place. We live in a very nice community with nice schools. That said when it came to bullying and bullies no one has a clue. Good luck, and I am glad that your family too sticks together…..
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